Facing Your Inner Truth For Lasting Change
We are complex, biopsychosocial beings. For some of us, poor diet may simply be driven by poor habits. While changing a habit alone isn’t easy, it’s even more challenging when our own inner truth works against us. When our psychology is out of whack, our bodies will try to compensate for it somewhere else. When I hit bottom, I had to get real in order to make a lasting change.
For me to make it happen, I had to face my own inner truth.
When my dad dropped dead at the age of 54 from a sudden heart attack, I gave myself a good long look in the mirror. As my reflection peered back at me, I realized that I was on the exact same path. Why? I took matters into my own hands and went inward through daily meditation, deep observation and self-reflection.
At first, I blamed everything else for my plight. In time, I began to peel away the thick layers of my own psychology that were protecting me from my inner truth. With sorrow, I eventually realized that I was committing a slow suicide. I took a deep breath and allowed myself to peel away one more layer. Within moments, I understood. I held on to one very nasty underlying belief, and that belief rumbled under the surface of my wellbeing since childhood.
I believed that I was not worthy of love.
In practice, I am the first person to tell you that I believe every person is worthy of love. Yet, this nasty little belief rooted itself so deeply in my core. This belief thwarted every single attempt I made at improving my wellbeing and building relationships. For years, I distracted myself from my own inner truth through junk food, sedentary lifestyle, workaholism and blame.
By using food as coping mechanism, I missed the chance to fuel my own wellbeing. I protected myself from a host of other things that I could excuse away. As it turns out, this included the rejection of love from people that I cared for very deeply. For me, I had to face my own inner demons in order to make a lasting change.
The truth is that we all have our own demons. This is all part of the beautiful complexity that comes with being human. In some cases, we may protect ourselves from seeing our own truth through the distraction of diet. When we face those problems with an open mind and an open heart, they can offer us a positive path forward.
Every person is unique. Only you will know if your biggest challenges have less to do with junk food and more to do with a fracture in your own inner truth. It’s funny how sneaky we humans can be when it comes to pleasure and pain. We have an uncanny ability to find hiding spots in murky middle ground that sits between one end of the extreme and the other.
Faulty inner truths easily unravel diet attempts and pull at strings in other areas in your life. If you try to flip your diet, a flawed inner truth may be exposed very suddenly. If you have something crop up out of the woodwork that feels bigger than you, consider bringing on a coach, counselor or therapist. With the right guidance, you can progress on your diet and lifestyle while you heal old wounds that may be undermining your efforts.
All the best,